This was bound to come up. At some point in time, some atheist had to suggest that God had taken sexual advantage of Mary (if not actual and literal rape). They just cannot help themselves.
Eric Sprankle, a university professor (atheist and satanist) recently had posted this to twitter: “The virgin birth story is about an all-knowing, all-powerful deity impregnating a human teen. There is no definition of consent that would include that scenario. Happy Holidays.”
When it was pointed out to him that Mary did give consent, he replied: “The biblical god regularly punished disobedience. The power difference (deity vs mortal) and the potential for violence for saying “no” negates her “yes.” To put someone in this position is an unethical abuse of power at best and grossly predatory at worst.”
In other words, God put her in a position where she had no choice in the matter.
If you look at, say, Mark’s account, it may seem that God told her what He was going to do and that’s that. It might appear she had no choice, but only to the shallow thinkers and those who dismiss the facts having an axe to grind against God. Luke’s account shows that clearly that Mary gave God her consent to do it: “Behold the maidservant of the Lord! Let it be to me according to your word.” His answer to that is basically, “Well, He is God and if you disobey Him, you could get into trouble and that was why she agreed to it, not because she wanted to.”
First of all, let’s clear up the rape charge. There was no physical sexual activity involved on God’s part at all. God is spirit, nor corporeal (John 4:24). The Holy Spirit did not impregnate Mary in the way humans do; there was no human sperm or coupling involved at all. This was accomplished entirely by miracle. God was coming into the world in the flesh and this was the only way to do it. Think it over. If God can speak worlds into existence by words, non-physical things, then sending the eternal Word, Jesus, into the world via the womb by non-physical means, is nothing for Him. So it could never be rape as we know it. The best that could be charged is – God took advantage of her. He most certainly did not.
It must be understood that God never chose Mary randomly. He created her for this very thing. Being omniscient and unshackled by time constraints, God could gaze down the streams, the channels, of time and select a woman He created whom He deemed worthy to deliver the Messiah, Jesus, into the world who would agree to it voluntarily. He would not have chosen her if He knew she would NOT have consented to it. That’s the perk of being God – you know the end from the beginning. He, therefore, had her consent from the onset, before the event even happened. Wrap your head around that thought for a moment. Let it sink in.
Put simply, God chose Mary because He created her knowing she would be the one to agree to bear the Christ child, would love, nourish, and protect Him, never remotely considering abortion (even if they did that back then, which I doubt). He placed the entire future and destiny of the human race in the womb of the one person He could trust to bring the Christ into the world without a hitch – Mary – and that is why she is blessed among women, highly favored.
With God masterminding salvation, nothing and no one: angel, demon, Satan himself, would be able to derail His plan. And do not think Satan didn’t try! The multitudinous times Satan tried to destroy God’s people Israel (think Cain murdering Abel, the apparent line of the “seed” promise which was actually the line of Seth; the ungodly world threatening to corrupt the messianic line through Noah which God saved through a flood; the Pharaoh who ordered the male children of Israel to be killed; the nations around Israel which tried repeatedly throughout history to wipe it out; the machinations of Haman who wanted the Jews destroyed, etc., etc.) Yes, Satan even used King Herod to try to destroy the child in its infancy. Satan wanted to destroy the Messiah. He still does with blasphemous, unsubstantiated, attacks like this made against God.
Don’t be unsettled that Gabriel spoke of the event as a “done deal” with her. He knew what her choice would be because he knew God well enough to know that He planned it this way, that she would consent. She, like every other Israelite woman, greatly desired the prospect of being the one through whom the Messiah would come – which must have been why being barren was considered, by them, as a curse of God, worthy of reproach. You can tell by her beautiful song that she was humbled and blessed by having been chosen for this:
“And Mary said: “My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. For He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant; For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed. For He who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is His name,” Luke 1:46-49.
Hmmm. Doesn’t sound like something a victim of unlawful sexual abuse would say, much less sing about, does it?
It is quite obvious that Satan is still in the “snake oil medicine” business. He still tries to peddle his absurd, scurrilous, lies about the One Person whom God sent into the world to save us all from the place that he, Satan, and his God-envious ilk, are destined to inhabit for eternity, for saying things like this. No surprise here. This is just one more way for him to do it via the mental-gymnastic perversions of his unwitting, or perhaps witless, surrogates.
Doctorates and intellectualism may impress a lot of people, but they don’t impress God or those who know Him and the truth of His Word.
We know what Mary believed about the situation by what she did and said about her part in bringing our Lord Jesus Christ, the Victor over sin, death, and Satan, into the world.
All the rest of this nonsense is just another bite of sour grapes from a three-time-loser and his bitter band of not so merry men.
 Luke 1:38
 Colossians 2:13-15
 Genesis 3:15
 1 Peter 3:18-20
 Luke 1:28
 Luke 1:24-25